We're lying in bed the other night, and after slathering my belly bump with cocoa butter, I leaned over and said to Chad, "So, honey, what do you really think? Is it a boy or a girl?"
"I'll be able to tell you in a week."
"Huh? Why a week?"
"That's when you'll be 12 weeks along. And that's how far along you were last time when I knew it was a boy."
(O.K.... didn't know that from last time). Then he says,
"Wait, maybe I can tell now."
He puts his hand on my belly, his head on his pillow, closes his eyes, and is very quiet. After what felt like 10 minutes, I finally said, "Are you sleeping over there????"
"Shhhh!!! I'm trying to concentrate! I'm looking into the future!"
(Ok, I know my belly is growing, but it's not the size of a crystal ball yet!)
"Ok... yep, I got it. It's a girl."
"Yep. It's a girl."
"Does she have a name?"
"How could I see her name?"
"Hmmm... maybe on the wall in her bedroom???"
He thinks for a minute... and then finally says,
(and here's where I proceed to smash, crush, and completely DESTROY Chad's adorable "vision" in one fell swoop)...
"ASHLEY??? Why Ashley?? Do you know how many Ashleys I've known? Do you know how many Ashleys are at my school right now? And my friend's baby is Ashlyn! That's WAY too close to Ashley. She can't be Ashley. I can't have an Ashley!! That's an 80s name. That's a popular girl's name. That's a popular CHEERLEADER'S name! I just can't have an Ashley."
"Oh honey, I mean, that's the cutest thing ever! But, um, do you possibly see any other names on that wall? Can you, um, check again?"
So the next morning, I called my friend Marie and told her about Chad's "vision." She said, "Chad, Heather, Aidan, and Ashley. I love it! That's so cute - Aidan and Ashley."
I talked to Andrea, the mom of Ashlyn. Same thing. "Aidan and Ashley - so cute! And it's not the same as Ashlyn. I wouldn't mind!"
That night, I finally told Chad that I just didn't see myself with an Ashley. To me, that's a cute cheerleader's name, like Jessica or Brittany or Kirsten. And this is what he said...
"But you're HOT!"
Huh? What's your point?
"Hot mamas should have hot names for their daughters. And Ashley is HOT!"
Ok, another reason why I DON'T want Ashley. : ) But it was just too darn cute that he actually had an opinion about it, and such a strong one at that! Made me wish I really did like that name! And all of the Ashleys I've ever known were really sweet girls. If I weren't the control-freak that I am, I could let Chad pick out the baby name. But, um, I'm not. No way. No freakin' way.
And I'm not sure about the whole same-letter thing. I have a ton of friends with same-letter kids (Mina & Max, Avie & Amelia, Isabelle & Issac, Brea & Brody), and I love all of those combinations, but all the "A" girl names I like have been taken by my friends (Ava, Amelia, etc.).
SO... I don't know if it's a boy or a girl, but it's never to early to start...
Throw out some baby names at me!! Boys or girls (last name "Stoker").
If you know me at all, you'll probably know I'm not a huge different & original fan - after all, Aidan is now #1 on the charts. But I did like it before it got popular! I like names that can last generations and trends. That sound good as babies AND as grown-ups. I originally liked names that couldn't be mispelled, but we sure blew it with Aidan (Aiden, Ayden, Aaden, etc.).
Ok, gimme your lists!! And if you've sent me some already, re-post yours so everyone can see them here! Or tell me what names you liked that your spouse didn't (or vice versa)... and who won? : )